July 27, 2008

Sunday Afternoon

Titles. Who is good at coming up with short, clever lines to sum up a post? (Hint: NOT ME.)

Thanks to all the wonderful people who have left comments on my site. And thank you, Emily, for reaching out to me, in response to a random comment I left on your blog. It has been really amazing, actually, and well, to be candid, people who do not know me have responded much differently than people who do. Perhaps it’s because we all have expectations (for better or for worse) of those we know and love, while many people don’t have expectations of strangers, who therefore cannot fail us in those expectations. Regardless of the reason why, I thank you for your thoughts, your prayers, and your well-wishes for me and my family.

I’ve stated before my desire (need!) to be anonymous, and that’s one reason why I haven’t given the details of what it is that I did. But I can clarify for those who are curious, it is considered a property crime: no people, no families, no children, no animals, no living, breathing, being was injured, or taken advantage of, or compromised in any way. Because it was a property crime, we (my husband and I) were able to take extreme steps in our personal financial life to provide full restitution. Hence the fact that we now have one car and are living with my parents temporarily, have zero investments and retirement, and are essentially broke. I know many people live like this, and I’m not trying to solicit your sympathy. Like I’ve said before, I can handle being broke. It is the idea of being away from my family, on top of giving everything else up, that is difficult to contemplate.

One person asked how long I may be gone. Good question. I wish I knew. For many reasons, I did not accept a plea deal and therefore have no guarantee of knowing what my punishment could be. I know that standard sentencing ranges from 3.5 years to 4.5 years. The prosecutor, however, has made it clear that he intends to ask the judge for 11 years. Considering that there are several crimes that get LESS time than 11 years – rape of a child, leading organized crime, manslaughter first degree, incest, hit and run resulting in death, drive by shooting, to name a few – it seems the request is excessive. Not to mention disturbing. Of course, I’m a bit biased, and I’m not sure my opinion counts here.

Because I’ve been such a good girl prior to this offense, I qualify for something called the First Time Offender Waiver, in which the judge can sentence me to 0-90 days, and a year of community custody (the new-fangled term for parole). Counseling and other things may also be required. The judge has full discretion to grant first time offender waiver, or not. I have a very good attorney (have I mentioned that?) who is a kind, smart man, and willing to argue persuasively and aggressively for my cause at the sentencing hearing on Friday. There are many factors that help in this regard: willingness to take full responsibility, providing full restitution, plus the fact that I’m not at risk of reoffending. No, no, no, never again, I swear.

So that, in brief, is what I did, and how long I may be gone.

Wild Thing is sitting on my lap now as I type away. He’s holding the remote for my CD player to his ear saying, “Allo? Allo?” His new nickname around the house is Master of Disaster. He gets into EVERYTHING. Ladybug didn’t do this. Are boys just different that way? I need to get him into a bath to soften his skin up. It’s time to tackle the slivers in his feet and hands again. YIKES. Wish me luck.


Denise K. said...

Dear Mercy Project,

Thank you for sharing your story, I know it must have been difficult to know what to "share" with virtual strangers. I so appreciate it though, as I have been worried about you, and have been checking your site all weekend. We moms worry you know!

I will be praying for you...for all the quality time with your family as possible..to love each and every one of them fully, as truly for any of us, today is the only day we are guaranteed. I am so glad that you have the support of your husband, your parents, and your loving children. I know that their love will see you through this time.

We blog readers will continue to follow your journey, and no matter what the outcome, we will pray for you as a fellow sister in Christ, and for as much as we can be, "a long distance blog friend."

My love, prayers, and positive thoughts go out to you tonight, and all week as you prepare for Friday. May God Bless you today and always, and may you have peace through this journey that you are loved by Him!

In peace,

stefanie said...

I am also praying for you.

Lisa Ann said...

I will pray for you.

emily said...

Yes, boys are just that different. It is pretty amazing, isn't it? Love his nickname, by the way.

I can certainly appreciate your need to clear up the crime genre. Not meaning to be flippant with that phrase, but I had a feeling it was something like you said. It isn't right to me the way the judicial system seems to work...how people who commit crimes against property (or however you call it) can get more time than people who commit crimes against people.

There is a sense of brokenness about you that comes across in your writing. I really appreciate that. I hope you know that you can talk about boogers and mac n cheese and hairspray here, if that is what you need to do. I love the updates, but I hope you don't feel pressure to give them. You certainly owe us nothing.

I'm so glad I found you!

Anonymous said...

I will think and pray for you for Friday. I pray you will get the waiver. Your blog touched me.